Just Like His Father?
Liane J. Leedom, M.D. psychiatrist and author of Just Like His Father? warns, “Your at-risk child’s needs may be different from those of other children.”
A commitment to educate parents about the needs of at risk children, began when Dr. Leedom realized that her son is at risk. For three years she poured through masses of scientific literature to gain the tools she needed to care for her own son.
She says “Although the government has spent millions uncovering the genetic and environmental factors involved in antisocial behavior, addiction and ADHD, the findings of this work are not available to the public.” She believes, “We all have a right to the information that will help us protect and enjoy our at-risk children.”
Dr. Leedom has packaged this information in an easy to read book. We offer the book and together with an eWorkbook for only $17.95. The cost of the books and your time to read them are tiny in comparison to the personal and financial costs of a child, teen or adult with antisocial behavior or addiction!
Get Just Like His Father? and the Child Well-Being eWorkbook together for only $17.95.
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Women Who Love Psychopaths will help you:
Shortly after the release of Just Like His Father? Dr. Leedom received countless letters from women detailing the trauma they suffered at the hands of their child's father. She realized that in order for these women to mother their chidren they had to heal. She teamed up with Sandra L. Brown, M.A. of the Safe Relationships Institute and together they produced the ground breaking new book Women Who Love Psychopaths Inside the Relationships of Inevitable Harm.
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1. Understand why you got into that relationship.
2. Heal from that emotional trauma.
3. Live a more peaceful life while mothering your child(ren).
The Genes for Antisocial Behavior, Addiction/Alcoholism and ADHD are found in many families!
Do either of your child's biologic parents have alcoholism or another addiction, antisocial behavior or ADHD?
Do these problems exist in your extended family?
Is your child adopted? Do you know the birth parents' genetic background?
Just Like His Father? gives you the tools you need to parent any child with genetic risk for antisocial behavior, addiction and ADHD.
We all want our children to grow up to live productive and fulfilling lives. Sometimes however, a parent’s good intentions are simply not enough, since the genes for ADHD, addiction and antisocial behavior are found in many American families. As Liane J. Leedom, M.D. describes in Just Like His Father? some kids inherit genes that send them down a path of destruction. Science has proven that there is a genetic connection between ADHD, addiction and antisocial behavior.
But if these conditions are genetic is there nothing a parent can do? Although genes for ADHD, addiction and antisocial behavior are inherited, these genes interact with a child’s environment to produce these conditions. In Just Like His Father? the dance between nature and nurture that gives rise to ADHD, addiction and antisocial behavior is revealed so that parents can take action now to protect their children.
Here's what child development experts are saying about Just Like His Father?
A Wonderful Parenting Guide (January 29, 2007).This is an excellent book for parents or potential parents of children at risk for ADHD, antisocial personality and addiction. It provides a comprehensive summary of the research demonstrating the genetic comonent involved in these issues. But, even more importantly, it provides practical, easy to understand guidelines for parenting your at risk child during the stages of infancy, early childhood, middle childhood and even during adolescence. The advice is based upon current, clearly explained academic research.
Dr. Leedom outlines a triangle, involving 3 key components: impulse control, moral reasoning and ability to love. These developmental tasks are inextricably linked such that impaired ability in one area, may lead to difficulty in another. Dr. Leedom describes how the genetically at risk child has vulnerability in these areas. But even more importantly, she clearly describes the steps that we can take to reduce vulnerability in our at risk children.
Dr. Leedom has written an engaging, authoritative book in simple, easy to follow language. She expertly weaves in her own personal experiences, which brings the book to life. This is a must read for thoughtful parents or potential parents of children who are at risk. As an Educator, Psychologist and Parent of an at risk child, I highly recommend this book.
Tracey E Ryan Ph.D.
University of Bridgeport
In the book Just Like His Father, Dr. Liane J. Leedom has done an excellent job of translating a vast amount of research into language that is easily understandable for parents of at-risk children. As a result, Dr. Leedom leaves parents with the one thing they cannot do without…HOPE! However, it is her personal sharing that lets us know she is more than just an expert in the field of child psychiatry. She is also a parent who has faced many of the same challenges she describes in the book. Just Like His Father is an excellent resource for parents and mental health professionals alike.
Jerry Wilde, Ph.D.
Author of Hot Stuff to Help Kids Chill Out: The Anger Management Book
Also available from The Parent's Store is The Child Well-Being Workbook. For only $3.00 you can receive an electronic copy of this Workbook which has parenting exercises and activities you can do with your child. We have kept the cost of these materials low, to get them to all parents who need them. To order Just Like His Father? and your ecopy of The Child Well-Being Workbook, click on the buy now button below.
Just Like His Father?
Table of Contents
1. INTRODUCTION 1
Disaster Strikes 1
Children of Sorrow Children of Hope 4
In the Genes 6
The Prevention of a Disorder 10
2. THE INNER TRIANGLE 13
Antisocial Personality Disorder and the Inner Triangle 13
Addiction and the Inner Triangle 20
ADHD and the Inner Triangle 22
Nature Verses Nurture 22
3. YOUR CHILD’S ABILITY TO LOVE 24
What Is Ability to Love? 24
Birth to 12 Months 32
How to Be More Responsive to Your Child 36
Things You Can Do to Enhance Your Baby’s Ability to Love 39
Things that Impair a Baby’s Ability to Love 39
Signs that the First Year Went Well 39
12-36 Months 40
The Terrible Twos 42
Basic Feeling States Your Toddler Should Understand 46
Things You Can Do to Enhance Your Toddler’s Ability to Love 48
Things that Impair a Toddler’s Ability to Love 48
Love Ability and Day-Care 48
Preschool, Ages 3-5 49
Things You Can Do to Enhance Your Preschooler’s Ability to Love 54
Things that Impair a Preschooler’s Ability to Love 56
How to Repair Your Relationship with Your Preschooler 57
The Elementary School Years- More Shared Experiences 59
Empathy– The Cornerstone of Ability to Love 61
Teach but Don’t Overwhelm Your Child 62
Clinical Depression in Mother or Father? 66
What to Do if Your Ten-Year-Old Has Difficulty Reading Others 67
Laughter Is Good Medicine, but Teasing Is Toxic 67
Things You Can Do to Enhance Your Child’s Ability to Love 68
Things that Impair a Child’s Ability to Love 68
How to Repair Your Relationship with Your Child 69
Middle School 70
Things You Can Do to Enhance Your Middle School Child’s Ability to Love 73
Things that Impair a Middle School Child’s Ability to Love 74
How to Repair Your Relationship with Your Middle School Child 74
Why Is It Important to Have a Close Relationshipwith Your Middle School Child? 75
Family Ties and Love Ability During the Teen Years 76
Things You Can Do to Enhance Your Teen’s Ability to Love 79
Things that Impair a Teen’s Ability to Love 79
How to Repair Your Relationship with Your Teen 80
Keeping the Lines of Communication Open 81
Guiding Your Child in the Midst of Tragedy 82
Mother and Father 84
4. IMPULSE CONTROL– ALWAYS A
WORK IN PROGRESS 87
What Are Impulses? 87
What Are Drives? 87
What Is Impulse Control? 88
Do You Have a Strong-Willed Child? 90
Training Impulse Control 91
Teaching Impulse Control to Preverbal Infants and Toddlers 92
Teaching Impulse Control by Using Rewards and Setting Limits 94
Practice Positive Parenting 96
Five Steps to Limit Setting 100
Types of Consequences 101
Limit Setting with Teens 102
Getting Results from Limit Setting 103
Impulsivity in Emotional Expression 104
Does Your Child Have a Hair-Trigger for Anger? 104
Temper Tantrums 107
Food, Comfort and Impulse Control 108
The Drive for Physical and Emotional Closeness 110
The Entertainment-Exploration Drive 110
Things that Help a Child with Attention and Concentration 118
How to Positively Shape Your Child’s Entertainment Drive 119
Things that Hamper a Good Work Ethic 119
Born Without Fear- the Thrill-Seekers 120
How to Manage Fears in a Child Who Is Relatively Fearless 124
Fearfulness, Conscience and Impulse Control 126
Aggression and the Drive for Social Dominance 127
What Is the Drive for Social Dominance? 127
Oppositional Defiant Disorder 129
Competent and Important 131
How to Remain Captain of The Ship
Even When the Crew Is Trying to Mutiny 133
About Cruelty and Violence 133
Parent Says, “Sometimes it seems my child
intentionally tries to provoke me!” 135
A Parent Says, “My child is a liar.” 136
About Low Self-Esteem 137
Acquiring Possessions 137
Summary of the Basic Drives 142
Balance in Pleasure 144
Organization and Time Management 145
He Can’t... or He Won’t? 146
Mood Disorders 147
5 . MORAL REASONING ABILITY 150
Moral Reasoning Ability Is Unique to Humans 150
Guiding Your Child through the Phases of Moral Development 150
How to Prevent Disordered Moral Development 153
Temptation: A Useful Concept 155
The Importance of the Bond with Pasrent 157
Your Child, Your Helper 159
Impulse Control, Moral Values and Having Fun 162
Moral Values that Immunize Against Antisocial Personality Traits and Addiction 163
Moral Values Regarding the Self 163
Moral Values Regarding Others 164
Moral Values Regarding Society 165
Reaching for the Stars 165
6 . THE INNER TRIANGLE REVISITED 166
Summary of Possible Genetically-Determined Inborn Qualities Important in Antisocial Personality
Disorder and Addiction 166
A Story with a Happy Ending 168
The Sides of the Inner Triangle 169
The Points of the Inner Triangle 171
Environmentally-Induced Antisocial Personality Disorder 173
The Other Side of the Coin 174
Illness or Evil? 175
7. ADDICTION REVISITED 177
How Does Addiction Happen? 177
If Alcohol Abuse Is in Your Child’s Genes 179
A Path Into Addiction 180
Predicting Recovery in Teens 183
8 . ADHD REVISITED 184
Can ADHD be prevented? 186
Are all children with ADHD similar? 187
My child has ADHD. How can I tell if
he is receiving the appropriate treatment? 187
My child has ADHD. How can I keep
him physically safe? 188
My child has ADHD. How can I help him socially? 188
My child has ADHD. How can I help him academically? 190
My child has ADHD. Will medication
further increase his risk for addiction? 191
My child has ADHD. Is he at increased risk
for Antisocial Personality Disorder? 192
9. THE INNER TRIANGLE AND ABILITY TO PARENT 194
Does the Inner Triangle Affect Parenting Ability? 194
Parenting Styles and Outcome for Children 197
Caretaking and Avoiding Servitude 198
About Yelling and Spanking 200
Provoking Anger 201
The Blame Game 203
10. QUESTIONS FROM PARENTS 206
Am I too late? 206
Is it really possible to overcome inborn temperament? 206
I just want my child to be happy. Is there anything wrong
with that? 207
My child is so oppositional,
I can’t stand being around him. What do I do? 208
What about diet and allergies? 208
My child’s other parent who is an addict or has antisocial
personality wants to see him. What do I do? 209
My child only seems to care for his friends. What do I do? 210
There seem to be no nice friends for my child in our neighborhood. What do I do? 210
I have a loving relationship with my child and he is still bossy and has poor impulse control.
What do I do? 210
My child treats me with disrespect. What do I do? 211
How do I teach my child to handle the aggression other children may direct toward him? 212
11. HOW TO GET HELP FROM PROFESSIONALS 214
12. ON HAVING LOVED A PSYCHOPATH 219
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